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title: ▍The “Tell Them” T̶H̶E̶O̶R̶Y̶
created: 2026-03-11
modified: 2026-03-14
category: Essay
author: Vex King
url: https://vexking.substack.com/p/the-tell-them-theory
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I’m convinced a **Tell Them Theory** would make the world a better place.

Think the waiter was friendly?

**Tell them.**

Your friend looked good today?

**Tell them.**

Someone’s work inspired you?

**Tell them.**

The world is loud with criticism and quiet with appreciation. Be the exception. It could make someone’s day.

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Unlike many things in life, appreciation has an **expiry date**. **The best time to offer appreciation is now**. And I don’t mean the generic kind. Not “you’re amazing” or “I appreciate you.” I mean the specific kind. Tell them:

* “Your presence calms me when everything feels chaotic.”
* “You make people feel safe to be themselves.”
* “The way you handled that situation taught me something valuable.”
* “Your consistency inspires me. You show up even when it’s inconvenient, and that says a lot about your character and heart.”