--- title: Abandon your ego modified: 2026-08-15 --- > “Showing off is the fool’s idea of glory.” — Bruce Lee > “The main cause of our unhappiness is that we identify so strongly with the ego.” — Tenzin Palmo > “More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren’t so busy denying them.” — Harold J. Smith > “If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.” — Epictetus > “I’ve done more for the environment than any single human on earth—what I care about is the reality of goodness not the perception of it and what I see all over the place is people who care about looking good while doing evil. F\*ck them.” — Elon Musk]() --- [Ego 自我評價；自我中心；自負；自尊心](https://dictionary.cambridge.org/zht/%E8%A9%9E%E5%85%B8/%E8%8B%B1%E8%AA%9E-%E6%BC%A2%E8%AA%9E-%E7%B9%81%E9%AB%94/ego) --- ≈ Expose your ego. ≈ Put your ego aside. ≈ Leave your ego at the door. --- * 放下自尊 * 把自己縮小 * 自我意識別太多 * 別把自己太當一回事 * 承認自己只是個平凡人 * 不要把自己當成宇宙中心 --- 多一點別人，少一點自己。 --- “Me” is a disease. --- Ego is not your Amigo. --- Get small — Littleness — The sense of transcendence that makes us small --- 面子是這個世界上最不值錢的東西。 * 有人為了愛面子，不願意與他人學習請教，失去了成長的機會。 * 有人為了愛面子，不願意與他人應對互動，失去了良好的人緣。 * 有人為了愛面子，把錢花在奢侈的物質上，失去了用錢的效率。 --- One of the great mistakes in life is suffering for years because you didn’t want to feel foolish for five minutes. * You don’t want to apologize, so you let a relationship deteriorate. * You’re scared of the sting of rejection, so you don’t ask for what you want. * You fear people will say your idea is dumb, so you never start the business. --- # 離怖畏 在佛教中指「離怖畏如來」，是北方如來（即釋迦牟尼佛）的尊號，意思不是「什麼都不怕」，而是從恐懼與執著中解脫。 佛教認為，許多恐懼都源自對「我」的執著： * 害怕失敗，是因為害怕「我」失去價值；害怕死亡，是因為執著「我」必須繼續存在 * 害怕他人評價，則是因為需要維護某個自我形象 因此，「離怖畏」不是消除外在危險，而是看透恐懼背後的執著，使人即使面對失敗、死亡、未知或逆境，也不再被恐懼牽著走；換句話說，真正的無畏不是世界變得安全，而是內心不再需要世界按照自己的期待運作。 --- # [“Keep Your Identity Small” by Paul Graham](https://paulgraham.com/identity.html) > Politics, like religion, is a topic where there’s no threshold of expertise for expressing an opinion. All you need is strong convictions/beliefs, and anyone can have those. > I think what religion and politics have in common is that they become part of people’s identity, and people can never have a fruitful argument about something that’s part of their identity. > So it’s not politics that’s the source of the trouble, but identity. When people say a discussion has degenerated into a religious war, what they really mean is that it has started to be driven mostly by people’s identities. > The more labels you have for yourself, the dumber they make you. --- # [“I assume I’m below average” by Derek Sivers](https://sive.rs/below-average) > Now I just assume I’m below average. > It serves me well. I listen more. I ask a lot of questions. I’ve stopped thinking others are stupid. I assume most people are smarter than me. > To assume you’re below average is to admit you’re still learning. You focus on what you need to improve, not your past accomplishments. --- # [David Foster Wallace’s Commencement Speech “This Is Water”](https://fs.blog/david-foster-wallace-this-is-water/) [^1] #TODO --- Not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less. > [“Thinking about yourself is the source of all unhappiness.” — Naval Ravikant](https://youtu.be/KyfUysrNaco) > “Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world.” — Miyamoto Musashi --- [The Beginner Mindset](the-beginner-mindset.md) [^1]: [The Speech That Changed How I See the World | The Curiosity Chronicle](https://www.sahilbloom.com/newsletter/the-speech-that-changed-how-i-see-the-world)