--- name: disability-disclosure-decision description: "Decide whether, when, how, and to whom to disclose a disability or health condition at work — weighing the real benefits (accommodations, protection, honesty) against the real risks (bias, gossip), tuned to your specific situation. Use when someone says 'should I tell work about my disability/condition', 'disclose my ADHD/chronic illness at work', 'when do I tell my employer', or 'how much do I share'. Produces a decision framework for the situation, a disclosure script if you choose to, and the minimum-disclosure options. Your choice throughout; it never pushes disclosure." --- # Disability Disclosure Decision Skill Whether to tell work about a disability or health condition is one of the genuinely hard modern career decisions, because both directions carry real cost: disclosing can unlock accommodations and legal protection and end the exhaustion of hiding — and can also invite bias, being passed over, or becoming "the sick one." There's no universal right answer, only the right answer for *this* person, condition, workplace, and moment. This skill won't tell you to disclose or not; it maps the specific tradeoffs, surfaces the options between "full disclosure" and "nothing" that people forget exist, and — if you choose to — helps you do it well. ## What This Skill Produces - A **decision map for your situation**: the concrete benefits and risks of disclosing *here*, weighted by what you'd gain (accommodations you need now? protection? relief?) and what you'd risk (this specific workplace's culture, this manager) - The **spectrum of options** most people miss: not just all-or-nothing but partial and targeted disclosure — telling HR but not the team, naming the functional limitation without the diagnosis, disclosing to get an accommodation vs disclosing generally - The **timing question**: application vs offer vs post-start vs point-of-need, and why each changes the calculus - If you choose to disclose: a **script** tuned to the audience and the goal, and the minimum-disclosure framing (see [[accommodation-request]] for the accommodation route specifically) ## Required Inputs Ask for (if not already provided): - The condition and what's actually driving the question (needing an accommodation now? a performance situation? tired of hiding? a new job?) - The workplace reality, honestly: culture, this manager, whether others have disclosed and how it went, and the country's legal protections - What the user would gain by disclosing and what they most fear - Their own instinct — this is theirs, and the skill starts from where they lean ## Framework 1. **Clarify the actual goal — it changes everything.** "Should I disclose?" usually hides a specific driver: you need an adjustment, you're being managed for something the condition explains, or hiding has become unbearable. The right disclosure (who, how much) follows from the goal. Disclosing to secure an accommodation is a different, narrower act than disclosing generally. 2. **Weigh the real, situation-specific tradeoffs.** Benefits: accommodations, legal protection (which in many places attaches once the employer knows), an end to the masking tax, authenticity. Risks: bias, being sidelined, gossip, "reasonable- adjustment reluctance." Weight these against *this* workplace, not a general average — a supportive team and a hostile one are different decisions. 3. **Use the whole spectrum.** The forgotten middle: tell HR/occupational health but not your team; disclose the functional limitation and what helps without the diagnosis ([[nt-translator]]/[[accommodation-request]] framing); disclose only at the point of need. All-or-nothing is a false binary, and naming the options often dissolves the dilemma. 4. **Get the timing deliberately.** Pre-offer disclosure risks the offer (and is rarely required); post-offer/pre-start can secure adjustments with more protection; post-start-at-need is common and often safest. The skill lays out what each timing buys and costs so it's a choice, not an accident. 5. **If you disclose, do it well — and it's still your call.** A tuned script: to whom, how much, framed around what you need and can do (not an apology or an over-share), and in writing where protection or accommodations depend on a record. And the standing reminder throughout: not disclosing is a completely valid choice, now or ever. ## Output Format ``` ## What's really driving this [The specific goal behind the question — it shapes everything] ## The tradeoffs, for YOUR situation Benefits of disclosing here: … · Risks here: … (weighted to this workplace) ## Your options (not just all-or-nothing) [Full · HR-only · functional-not-diagnostic · point-of-need · none — with what each gets you] ## Timing [Application / offer / post-start / at-need — what each buys and costs] ## If you choose to disclose (your call) [Script tuned to audience + goal · minimum-disclosure framing · in writing where it protects you] Reminder: not disclosing is valid, now or ever. This is yours to decide. ``` ## Quality Checks - [ ] The actual goal behind the question is surfaced first, and shapes the recommendation - [ ] Tradeoffs are weighted to this specific workplace, not generic - [ ] The partial/targeted disclosure options are presented, not just all-or-nothing - [ ] Timing is laid out as a deliberate choice - [ ] The skill never pushes disclosure and states plainly that not disclosing is valid ## Anti-Patterns - [ ] Do not push the user to disclose (or to stay silent) — map the tradeoffs, protect their autonomy; the choice is theirs - [ ] Do not assert legal protections/rules as fact — they vary by country and attach differently; route to verify - [ ] Do not treat it as all-or-nothing — the middle options are usually where the good answer lives - [ ] Do not counsel over-disclosure — the goal usually needs the functional info, not the medical file - [ ] Do not minimize the real risks to nudge an uplifting answer — some workplaces are genuinely unsafe to disclose in, and honesty about that is the help ## Related [[accommodation-request]] for the accommodation-specific route (often needs only functional disclosure); [[coming-out-rehearsal]] shares the whether/how-to-tell engine; [[nt-translator]] and [[masking-budget]] for the neurodivergent version; [[disability-benefit-appeal]] for the benefits side. ## Example Trigger Phrases - "Should I tell work about my disability/condition?" - "Disclose my ADHD/chronic illness at work." - "Do I tell my employer?" - "How much do I share?"