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name: message-for-the-moment
description: "Write the short message you freeze on — a thank-you, condolence, congratulations, apology, or a graceful 'no' to an invite — warm, specific, and in your own voice. Use when asked to write a thank-you note, a sympathy/condolence message, a congratulations, a quick apology, or how to politely decline. Produces two or three ready-to-send options at the right length for the channel, plus the one line that carries the message, never generic filler."
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# Message for the Moment

Everyone freezes on these — the sympathy text, the thank-you that isn't a form letter, the "I can't make it" that doesn't sound cold. The block is never the words, it's the fear of getting the tone wrong. This writes a few options calibrated to the relationship and the moment, grounded in a real detail you give it, so it sounds like you actually meant it.

## What This Skill Produces

- **2–3 send-ready options** at different lengths/warmths for the channel (text, card, email)
- **The one line that carries it** — the specific, personal sentence that makes it land
- **A note on what to avoid** for this particular moment (e.g. don't say "everything happens for a reason" in condolences)

## Required Inputs

Ask for these if not provided:
- **The moment** — thank-you / condolence / congrats / apology / decline (or describe it)
- **Who it's to** — relationship and how you'd normally talk (formal? close? work?)
- **The specific detail** — what they did, who they lost, what you're sorry for — one real fact beats a paragraph of generic warmth
- **Channel & length** — a text, a card, an email

## Framework: What Makes It Land

1. **Name the specific.** "Thank you for driving three hours to be there" beats "thanks for everything."
2. **Match warmth to the relationship** — a card to a grandparent and a Slack to a coworker aren't the same register.
3. **Say the hard thing simply.** In grief and apology, plain and short beats eloquent and long.
4. **No clichés that hurt.** Avoid the stock lines that read as thoughtless for that moment.
5. **End clean.** No trailing "anyway…" — close on the feeling or the offer.

## Output Format

### [Moment] · to [relationship] · [channel]

**Option A (short):** …
**Option B (warmer):** …
**Option C (if you want to add an offer/next step):** …

**The line that carries it:** "…"
**Avoid here:** [cliché or misstep specific to this moment]

## Quality Checks
- [ ] At least one option uses the specific detail provided (not generic warmth)
- [ ] Tone matches the stated relationship and channel
- [ ] For condolence/apology: plain and short, no clichés that minimise
- [ ] For a decline: warm, clear, no over-explaining or false promises
- [ ] Each option is actually send-ready — no brackets left to fill unless input was missing

## Anti-Patterns
- **Generic warmth** ("thinking of you at this difficult time") with no specific — the thing that makes it feel automated.
- **Over-explaining a no** — a paragraph of excuses reads worse than a warm, brief decline.
- **Toxic-positivity in grief** — "at least," "everything happens for a reason," "stay strong."
- **Fabricating a detail** you weren't given — ask for it or keep it honestly general.

## Example Trigger Phrases
- "Help me write a condolence text to a coworker who lost their dad."
- "Thank-you note for my aunt who hosted the whole family."
- "How do I politely decline a wedding I can't attend?"
- "Write a short apology to a friend I stood up."
- "Congratulate my teammate on the promotion without sounding fake."